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Laying in bed watching TV with my baby. I ask him how he felt about me doing a big chop. His reply:
"Yeah baby go for it. There is always WEAVE"
::sigh::
"Yeah baby go for it. There is always WEAVE"
::sigh::
10 comments:
I thought your hair was already natural... do you just want a new, shorter look?
I have a black hair confession... I'm a TX college student that's thinking of going natural again, but I honestly hate the way I look natural. My hair is the kinkiest type around -- 4b on the Andre scale -- with about 60% shrinkage, and I hate having short hair. My favorite "grade" of hair would have to be somewhere around 2b -- not even curly, but wavy -- and, my preferred length would be brastrap (which I'm currently wearing extensions to achieve). I feel like I could "work with" 3b (or even 4 hair with less shrinkage), but with my hair type, I'd have to wait about 4 years to get to unstretched shoulder length. Combine that with my natural hair's propensity to tie itself into knots at the slightest provocation, and "Houston, we have a problem." In addition to that, hair like mine (extremely kinky hair) is the source of much social stigma and censure among women, men, whites and blacks. If I don't like it, there's going to be little to no validation of my hair's attractiveness. It doesn't shine, it feels wiry instead of silky, and it grows out instead of down, and not that far out. I would have to pretty much become my own stylist to style it, because even hairdressers straight from Africa have threatened each other with the daunting challenge of doing the task and advised me to hot comb it. In addition to all that, the range of styles I would have to choose from are styles that are nice on others, but are decidedly not the ones that I would think of choosing for myself if I weren't limited by my hair type.
So... what do I do?
Yeah I am natural now, but wanted a new look.
OK In terms of your hair, I bet it is beautiful natural!!!! All hair is good hair as my mother used to say. If you want to alleviate shrinkage I would suggest tons and tons of moisture. I use Suave Naturals Conditioner (yeah regular conditioner) as a leave in so my hair goes down and not out. Look at a few of my product routines to get an idea of what works for you. moisture wise. Stay away from products with silicone in them.
Also I don't go get my hair done at a hair shop either. They always want to hot iron or relax my hair, I do it at home.
There are so many styling options you can do with your hair if you want a different look without relaxers, weaves, etc. You have twists, straw sets, and braid outs!!!!
I would suggest braid outs for you so you can get a more wavy look. After washing and moisturizing your hair, put it into multiple braids and let air dry, once dry undo braids and finger comb and viola, wavy hair, less shrinkage and it can last about a week.
Don't braidouts shrink in humidity and rain? I'm aware of the range of natural styles -- it's just that most of them aren't face framing, and they're still a far cry from the hairstyles and textures I would ideally prefer -- hairstyles that natural 4b hair can't accomplish. That, and I do not want to be left alone to do my natural hair... I've been relaxed ever since I was 6, and hot combed prior to that. Learning how to work with it from pretty much square 1 sounds time-consuming and frustrating. Unfortunately, the area I live in is a bit backwards, and no stylist would know what to do with my hair... the people in my old salon think "natural" means hot combing the hair for several sessions until it gets "trained", and the folks in my new salon asked me to hot comb it so they could BRAID it. In addition to that, I'm also afraid of what is could do to my already uneventful love life.
Yeah it shrinks in the rain and humidity, but doesn't a perm and hot comb get messed up in the rain too? I can remember vividly dreading days that it rained or was humid because by the time I got out of the car and into whatever building I was going into my hair would fall or be all frizzy and big. My hair do is face framing and I know many people with 4 a/4b hair that have face framing hair. In terms of being left alone to do hair, it really isn't all that hard. Seriously I spend about an extra ten minutes in the shower washing my hair and between washes spend about 5 minutes doing my hair in the morning. What part of TX are you in? Run from hot combs, seriously heat is bad for your hair, every once in a while it is ok, but training the hair is a bit ridiculous. To me if a beautician can't braid hair without hot combing it, she doesn't need to be a beautician. My grandmother can braid "untrained" hair. In terms of your love life, hair does not dictate it. I still get plenty of guys of all races trying to talk to me, but ala I am married so that is a no go. They love the hair, they like hair they can run their fingers through, and it makes you stand out, in a good way, not a bad way.
You can also transition from relaxer to natural with braids!!!
Also check out this woman's blog, she has 4b hair as well and I love how her hair looks!!!
http://nappyme.wordpress.com/about-me/
It's so sad that even your baby suggests you adopt a weave after the BC. And that is the whole point of the BC to relieve yourself from the bondage of artificial attachments. Sheesh, you need to give baby the talk. Have you already BC'ed?
Well, that's what's wrong with black women now. They don't except their natural hair. I'm a 4b and prod of it! I love my kinky hair, and don't give a flip what others think. The way I see it, is people either love it or hate it, and I could care less! Anyway, with your type of hair, you just have to learn to work with it. To make it stretch out a little more naturally, use rods or the flexible rods. Braid it, twist, girl their is sooooo much you can do with your type that a 2b could not pull off long!! Be proud of that kinky hair!!
Hi I have tightly coiled kinky hair like yours, I call it beyond 4b coz have seen lots of pics of people who have 4b hair that goes bone stright when blown out or hot combed and my hair doesn't do that.lol Anyway I probably have 80% shrinkage and have been natural for 3 years or so. I've worn braids and wig caps most of the time coz living in UK where it rains all the time means its almost impossible to work any hairstyle without it getting messed up. I would like some suggestions of where I can get a weave that matches 100% natural african hair. Considering we are the largest consumers of hair products, I'm shocked there is hardly anything on the market that caters for our real hair texture. I'm sick of braids as they are destroying my hairline and although wig cap protects my hair underneath I really don't want to sport silky straight hair anymore. I've seen some products online from Adorable hair do corp where the kinky weave appears to look like it might match 4b hair, but not sure, as most of the 'kinky' weaves I've come across are actually for type 2 and 3 hair textures or the hair is some plasticky synthetic crap you cant comb or style. Ne way I think there is nothing wrong with wearing weaves as long as they look realistic. I've seen some people wearing natural looking weaves but can not seem to get hold of a good weave. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Be confident. Love yourself. Love your look. I have been natural for several years. Sometimes you hate it, sometimes you love it. I try to remember one thing... do you want to be another black women with a bad relaxer. If your hair is like mine it does not want to be relaxed. If beauticians are hostile toward your hair then they have no idea of what to do with it. You will! Give it time, be persistent, and own your beauty.
as far as a more natural looking weave, if you do braids, you can get human hair, corn roll the front of your hair and get a kinky twist afro they look super natural and have a good amount of flexibility depending on the hair and length of the braids
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